Honestly, I can't even get my head around it. I mean, there's always been a left and a right and neither of them liked each other but this TDS shit is on another level. I know it's used all the time but the orange man bad could literally come up with a means to kill cancer and the nutjobs would...
Sounds like a CAN BUS issue. They are known to go bad. It'd cost about $150 but your dealership should be able to spot what the exact problem is and pretty fast.
Factory control arms are designed to last the life of the vehicle. Typically and assuming you're not flexing out way beyond their capability with coilovers, that should be 1 million miles or more. That is a fact. In other words, the likelihood they are your problem are ZERO.