Figured I would update this thread with my results. Did the change pretty close to how OVERCLOCK3D did in his youtube video -
https://youtu.be/aiFY--sfAOE
Sorry I don't have pictures, was to busy doing the work.
Used a Topsider / fluid extractor and removed 3 1/2 quarts of transmission fluid.
Since I was replacing my crossmember with a hardrock 4x4 crossmember I removed the stock crossmember. This made getting to the 6 bolts on the transmission pan easy. And even if i wasn't replacing the crossmember. I would recommend removing the crossmember for this task, removing it was easy and made this task super simple.
Unbolted the pan and it still didn't come out, it hit exhaust pipe, so unbolted exhuast on the passenger side and pan came right out. If i had exhaust spaces, it probably wouldn't have been an issue. Pan had 1 quart of oil in it. I only spilled a bit getting the pan down.
Cleaned the pan and magnet, no metal shavings found.
Reinstalled pan with new filter and gasket. Used a Wix 58845 Transmission Filter with gasket.
I measured all the fluid I took out so I know how much to put back in. 4 1/2 quarts.
Put new crossmember on and took it for a drive, Checked fluid before and after, so I could check it hot and cold.
No leaks, very little mess.
Have put 400 miles on the jeep since the change and no issues.